They started by getting people to express support for the rain forests and the environment—which is a fairly simple request. Then they found that once they had gotten them to express their agreement to supporting the environment, they were much easier to convince when it came to buying products that supported rain forests and other such things. However, don’t start with one request and immediately assail them with another. Psychologists found it much more effective if you wait a day or two to make the second request.
Researchers studied mimicry, and found that those who had been mimicked were much more likely to act favorably toward the person who had copied them. Even more interesting was their second find that those who had someone mimic their behavior were actually nicer and more agreeable to others in general—even those not involved in the situation. It is likely that the reason why this works is that mirroring someone’s behavior makes them feel validated. While this validation is likely to be most positively associated with the person who validated them, they will feel greater self-esteem and thus be more confident, happier and well disposed towards others.
This comment is based on my own peculiar career and experiences but a world without lies might not always be a better world. Specifically I am thinking of those that hide people from persecution and lie to the authorities or the Underground Railroad. Lies can sometimes be selfless acts that place the liar at more risk than telling the truth.
Not all requests for help or advice are subjugation. For example, I am trying to get back into visual media and games again so am always asking people who seem to have similar interests and tastes what they recommend. It usually kicks off some fun discussions and later topics if I see or play their recommendation. It is not fake if you would really like to learn something new and intend to try it.
Yeah, I think the part that makes people like you is not the putting yourself in a position of supplication but the showing that you think their thoughts are valuable, that you are asking them because you think they have something to offer. Not in need of rescue, but wanting to hear from someone you respect.
I love how people can have totally different impressions of the same books. I need to reread with your comments in mind. My impression was more that children should be cautious of which adults they trust, so Dr. Malone was trustworthy but Mrs. Coulter was not.
Do you feel like yelling at the rude people around you? Don’t. Joining in the drama will only escalate the situation. Whether you’re dealing with a drama queen who’s doing it on purpose, or an inconsiderate oaf whose rudeness is unintentional, keep your dignity intact by not letting rude behavior provoke you into a tantrum of your own.
Unfortunately, your "sexy" half-open gaze might be the reason for your dry spell. The truth is that the smaller others perceive your eyes to be, the less they like you. Researchers conducted a study on several hundred men and women and gave them two pictures to look at. Both photos were of the same man, but one had the man's eyes fully open, the other slightly closed. There was no subtle difference in expression: They Photoshopped the pictures to ensure that every single element, down to the individual hairs, were identical.
In one study, researchers had participants evaluate the likability, credibility, and trustworthiness of people they were chatting with in an online setting. Each person had a different avatar: One was an antiquated female stereotype, another was slightly more androgynous, and the last was a ketchup bottle with a face, because Science got bored that day.
She felt like a chess player who, by the clever handling of his pieces, sees the game taking the course intended. Her eyes were bright and tender with a smile as they glanced up into his; and her lips looked hungry for the kiss which they invited.
You don't have to disclose your darkest secrets. If the other person says, "We just purchased a larger facility," say, "That's awesome. I have to admit I'm jealous. We've wanted to move for a couple years but haven't been able to put together the financing. How did you pull it off?"